I have been pro-life all my life, but I guess I only started plugging into the pro-life community sometime in 2007. About seven months after we lost John Blaise, in June of 2011, an email from Priests for Life included this short article on miscarriage from Fr. Frank Pavone. As I reread it now, I realize how basic it is to me now. But at that time, it really struck a chord. Still, this passage, for me, makes it worth the while:
In a society which continues to have a legal and cultural blind spot for the unborn, many suffer from the illusion that miscarriage doesn’t grieve a parent as much as the loss of, well, a “real child,” and that is precisely what hurts so much. We can never console someone in grief if we imply, even remotely, that the person they lost wasn’t real.
Here, someone whom I had never met, was reaffirming that my baby boy was in fact a “real child,” and that my grief was real and valid. Some days, that’s all we need, just to hear that it’s ok to grieve.
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