A great misconception our culture perpetuates is that the longer the life, the greater the legacy, the more valuable the life. This is closely tied to the ugly belief some hold that a child in the womb has no “value” unless the mother wants him or her. But as many…
Capture Your Grief Day 3: Myths
October 3, 2013 “How are you doing?” That is perhaps the most difficult question to answer after losing a baby. At least that’s been the case for me. How exactly am I supposed to answer that question? On what scale am supposed to evaluate my well-being? And, really, does…
Before we bury you
Dear Lightning Bug, It has been over two weeks since I first held you in my arms, over four months too soon. Two weeks since we gave you your “real” name, Alexander Gregory. Two weeks since we told you goodbye. I am so sad that you aren’t with us,…
Before the First Ultrasound
It is midnight the eve before I see you on the ultrasound screen for the first time. I am SO excited… and apparently pretty nervous too. I have been fighting physical symptoms of anxiety all weekend. I would much rather deal with pregnancy symptoms, if only because they are easier to explain.
Seven Deadly Sins and Willy Wonka
I’m not very proud of the fact that my husband and I let our boys watch a lot of movies. They probably don’t spend more time in front of the TV than most kids, but they do watch a lot of movies. And while I think it would be good…